Why Women Love Men Behind Bars
By Rachel Pickett
Published Feb 02, 2007
Arrogant, controlling, cocky, and dangerous; why would a woman want to be with a man like that? It's true, lots of women are attracted to "bad men" but its worse is when they are attracted to criminals, felons, and the incarcerated. Who are these women and why do they fall for men most of us wouldn't even consider dating? Understand why some women love bed men even when it means risking their lives and family relationships.
It seems the more notorious the criminal the more women that line up to see him and write letters. You would think a man in prison can't have a girlfriend but, you would be surprised how many available women are available to felons even if they aren't in the public spotlight. Some couples meet by visitation, letter writing, and others by phone. Typically it tends to be the woman reaching out to the men, but why? Bank robbers, murderers, rapists, and serial killers don't seem like people women would want to have a relationship with. Many are attracted to the danger and all are fascinated if not infatuated with the bad man of their desires.
Some women move miles away from family and friends to be with these men while others still take 2-3 hour long trips to go visit these men at jail. Women who love men behind bars let it rule their lives. Their daily routine tends to revolve around jail visitation hours making parenting, work, and even day to day life more difficult than it would be under normal circumstances. Women who love and marry men behind bars constantly play the victim time and time again. These relationships with men behind bars can have disastrous effects on the children and family of the woman involved.
How does something like this happen to what seems a totally normal woman? Well, most women that love bad men tend to have one thing in common; they are all insecure. They want someone to love them and they want to feel wanted. Usually they are lonely, don't have many friends, and often don't have strong relationships with family. But, don't be fooled because it can happen to anyone. Even a married woman may fall for a man behind bars and risk her life for him.
Women who love bad men are looking for danger, excitement, and unconditional love. All of these traits are commonly found in criminals which makes it understandable why these women fall for these men. Men behind bars are taken care of; the women don't have to worry about where he is because he is always in the same place, jail. They don't have to clothe, feed, or clean up after these men, which I assume is part of the obsession.